On Getting Un-Stuck…

Life throws challenges our way – sometimes pebbles, sometimes rocks. When faced with significant losses or obstacles, we often experience grief.

Some scientists argue that the Kübler-Ross theory on the 5 stages of grief is inadequate and was never intended for the bereaved. People grieve differently, and there’s no right or wrong way. Importantly, grief isn’t only experienced when we lose a loved one. We can feel grief when we lose anything of high value to us – a job, a relationship, an opportunity, or even a long-held belief.

Understanding this broader context of grief can help us navigate life’s challenges more effectively. It’s easy to feel stuck when faced with big obstacles, but remember: surviving doesn’t make you a victim. Thriving means using those rocks to climb higher.

I’ve finally learned this lesson after a decade of the universe trying to teach me. Your experiences shape your story, and getting unstuck is a victory, not a failure.

Ask yourself:

• What signs has the universe been sending you?
• What’s holding you back? Are you giving it too much power?
• Are you aware of character flaws that might be hindering you?
• Are you unknowingly clinging to a victim mindset?

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Victim mindset

In the context of this blog post: A “victim mindset” refers to a perspective where individuals see themselves as powerless in the face of life’s challenges. It’s characterized by:

Perceiving oneself as helpless against external forces

Feeling stuck and unable to change one’s circumstances

Focusing on obstacles rather than solutions

Avoiding responsibility for personal growth

Relying on excuses to justify inaction

Remember, it’s crucial to address your feelings – they’re valid. Grieve your losses, but then bounce back. Consider:

• Who are you angry at? Have you tried forgiving?
• Is your mind at peace?
• What’s one thing within your control you could change today?
• How do you deal with trauma – fight, flight, or freeze?
• Are you applying practical wisdom over emotional reactions?

surviving doesn’t make you a victim—thriving means using those rocks to climb higher.

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The best version of yourself is waiting on the other side of being stuck. Seek help, and keep it moving. In my journey, I’ve found professional help valuable, but the support of loved ones has been the most impactful.

Start practising self-kindness today – it might save a life someday. Find what works for you. It’s time to get unstuck and thrive.

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P.S. This might sound like a motivational woo-whoo today, but when the time comes, when you need that small pep-talk, I hope this brings you some reassurance.